Tuesday, January 11, 2005

Oh my GOD !

After visiting my friend (H), whose grandmother died 4 days ago (Allah yer7amha), I am still thinking of what she told me!
(H) said that she helped in washing her grandmother's body!!!
I got shocked and looked at her little sister surprised and told her (why did you let her do that?), her answer was (I did too! I was inside the washing room with them!)
I was like > Oh boy :\

This is so scary :(
Have you ever seen a body (dead person)???
have you ever washed a dead person???
how do u feel about it???
and what do you think of this subject???

38 comments:

True Faith said...

Ra-1,

I was shocked to, but not like your shock, your eyes were out of your face when she told you :D

Anyway, she is a strong girl, life made her know how to handle stuff like that.

As for me, don’t think I could.

Shaymz said...

I can see y u were shocked! She must be a very brave gurl. I think a person could get over seeing a dead body, but when its a body of someone related to u or someone u know.. that would be a tough sight to erase from ur memory, unless u have a short-term memory.

غسان said...
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:: muslim artist :: said...

Death is a part of life, and life is part of death.

Psychologically, I think the practice of washing the dead bodies of our loved ones is it reinforce the abovementioned concept.

Sobering, if anything... a tangible reminder of how fleeting life is.

bo_ghazi said...

I saw two dead bodies. My grandfather, & my grandmother... you wanna know the scary part (which I really hated).... I didn't feel a thing!!!
I swear I was pissed off coz everyone else was crying & feeling miserable... while I on the other hand was helping out and condolence my relatives & helping out carrying the bodies. I was in good relation with both of my grandparents. Actually my grandfather (who was in the hospital) died few hours after I left. I don't know maybe it was because both of them were sick & I just expected their death. Allah yir7amhom inshallah.

BloBoz said...

It's just a body !! What is the scary thing in it :\ ,,

I don't mind to do the same :)

غسان said...

I've taken some gross anatomy courses. First time in the dissecting room was scary. Some lectures after, cadavers meant nothing at all. Actually, I dealt with them as plastic models. The exception was when we uncovered the head to dissect it. The eyes were scary. I couldn't take them off or understand why we have to do it in the first place. Now, I don't think I can do it again.
When we dissect animals, rabbits and rats, we do it while they're alive. While you're cutting the ribs, you'd see the heart pumps and the stomach contracts.

Ra-1, Apart of all what I've said, you should be proud of your little brave friend.

bo_ghazi, I've been there. I felt shy and didn't know what to do and what was the proper feeling, as If I can manipulate my feelings.

Ra-1 said...

TF :p

Suki_Candy said...

actually mm i don't have been doing that but when i was lil' girl i lose my whole world when i was 7yrs old i lose my father coz i was my father's favorite girl, but distney we can't stop it , and about some one who have seen a dead body he/she is very very barve if u told me why coz she/he face the people when they're leaving our world they go to another world more diffrient than ours and how many people love this person they lose not only a soul but they lose a whole treasure in there life,but it's very hard when u lose a person every day talkin to him eatin with him/her live with him.


at finaly that girl she have hard heart to make her self believe that her favorite garanmother gone.


With My Love
Suki Candy

Ra-1 said...

Shaymz ... you're right, I agree ...

Ra-1 said...

Muslim artist ... that is why we should always pray for 7osn elkhatma (good end)
:(

Ra-1 said...

BoGhazi :(
did u want to do that? or someone asked u to?

Ra-1 said...

Bloboz ... maybe u have some kind of Blobozek power :p
what are u? dont have a heart?
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Ra-1 said...

غسان ...
:welcome to my blog :)
Arabic is allowed here ;) why did u remove it?

Ra-1 said...

Candy ...
yup she is strong mashaAllah :)

LiTTLE BiG said...

i have a friend ( nes5ty elmo6awrah )last week her grandma died & she tell me that she want to wash her grandma but she couldnot do that finally she tell me something strange that i have to see dead body !

eb9ara7a said...

ماشالله عليها يرعه ! قلبها قوي بالنسبه حق بنيه

أنا شفت جثث أيام الغزو و التحرير ! الاولى حق متعاون عراقي بمنطقه المنصوريه و الثانية حق العراقيين اللي كانوا منحاشين صوب العراق على طريج المطلاع اللي سموه ذيج الحزة .. طريج الموت .. لانه قوات التحالف دجتهم دج بالطيارات و اهمه ينسحبون انسحاب عشوائي !
و اخر ميت شفته اهو واحد من الشهدا الله يرحمهم و يخليهم يشفعون لنا يوم القيامة .. كان الدفان حق رفاة شهيد يصيرلي :(
اهم شي الواحد يتعض و يدعي انه الناس اللي تغسله و تصلي عليه و تحضر دفانه تكون جموع مو شوية مشيعين
.. يالله نشوتكم على خير :P

غسان said...

Ra-1, Starting my next post, inshalluh, I'll use Arabic:)

Permitah said...

مساكم الله بالخير و النور و الكرامه :)

تصرف صديقتج ان دل يدل على قوة ايمانها و اعتبارها ان يدتها راحت عند الله سبحانه و تعالى و الي بين ايدها ما هو الا مساعده حق يدتها في انها تختم اخر لحظات وجود جسدها فوق سطح الارض و هي متاكده من طهارته ... ما شاء الله عليها و ربي اهنيها اعتقد ان هذي البنوته تمتلك قلب حنون و عقل جبير و تقدر تقود عواطفها بعقل رزين .. و على فكره جثث المشرحه يمكن اي شخص عادي او طالب اكش منها كونها لناس ما ندري شني الظروف الي خلتهم يوصلون عندنافيكسرون خاطرنا لما انفكر انه يمكن لهم اهل كان ودهم اسوون الي سوته هل بنوته و لكن هذا جثمان اقرب الناس انا كان ودي اشوف يدي لو لحظه وحده و بعدين يدفنونه بس للاسف اعترف اني كنت اضعف من اني اوقف على حيلي يوم اني سمعت الخبر بليلة القدر .... الله يرحمك يا يدي الغالي و يرحم كل موتى المسلمين و يرزقنا الصحه و الخير و العافيه و يعينا على ذاك اليوم الي ما راح افيدنه فيه الا عملنا بدنيتنا ...... و امنتكم الرحمن الي عينه ما تنام

bo_ghazi said...

Ra-1, Maybe that friend of ur's was in some kind of shock. I noticed that some people when one of their beloved ones die, they seem to be ok & show no sadness emotions. But after a while (could be after couple of days) they just burst into tears and great sadness! They have a name for such behavior in psychology where a person who has suffered a tragedy would not show his/her emotions at the time the incident take place but after some time.

Shaymz said...

Bo_ghazi. Ur right. I think it's called post-traumatic stress? Or shock? Soemthing like that.

MîshMêshâ™ said...

Alsalam 3liekom ..

Masha'a Alaah How Brave She's !

Ana Bss Grait El Klam Wegaf Sh3ree Oo Met Mn Al5oof :| !!

Bss T9dgoon , E7na Me7tageen For Something Like This .. Something Y7arek Gloobna :| !!


Alaah Yr7mna Eb R7mta Oo Ye7sen 5atmtna !

Anonymous said...

على فكرة

Tara Ra-1 STRONG GIRL and she had a BRAVE HEART Too ماشاءالله لا إله إلا الله عليها

:p

Ra-1 said...

LittleBig ... what thing she told u???

Ra-1 said...

eb9ara7a ... o lesh wala marra geltlee!?
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Ra-1 said...

Permitah ... thanx for passing by :)

Ra-1 said...

BoGhazi ... maybe!

Ra-1 said...

Missing ... than for passing by :)

Anonymous ... (I had!) so not anymore?
:p

Nasser99 said...

هذى سنه الحياه و الي يعيش ياما يشوف الله يرحمها و يرحمنا برحمته
و بالتوفيق يا رب

www.nasser99.com

Anonymous said...

:p

Anonymous said...

:p

Ra-1 said...

Thank u Nasser :)
and welcome to my blog!

LiTTLE BiG said...

She told Me that i have 2 see DEAD BODY 3ashan ntathar ! Chan agolha AY SHAY Ba3den ma ra7 anam BeleL =pP~ 9ej !

Ra-1 said...

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Maryam said...

My aunt died last month (allah yer7amha) and sure I would never be able to wash her body.

Ra-1 said...

3atham ALLAH ajrech Maryam :(

Tattas said...

When I first read ur post I though that u were talking abt me and my sis .. But My grandma passed away in the 1st week of December ..Any way I just want to say that .. that day I attended the washing room for the first time in my life and On my way to the graveyard .. I was wondering about the day that I visit this place again carried as a body .. nobody knows when !Over there , I didn't wash her body .. I was just hiding my face.. couldn't see her that way .. But my sister did .. Abbeh .. it was horrible and u can smell re7at "el kafoor" .. I hate that smell of death it's so scary .. I was crying and my body was shivering .. not only because I'm afraid of death .. no .. it was also because I was unable to believe that my grandma was just a body that day .. It was really sad .. But the hardest thing was kissing her goodbye .. she was wrapped with that white clothes .. We could only saw half of her face .. I kissed her on her head .. and it was soooo cold and wet .. I was abt to faint .. I can still remember the taste of that kiss .. I wish that I wouldn't do it for anybody that I love again .. 3asa allah ya7sen khatmatna .. wethakerna beshahadah .

Ra-1 said...

ameen ameen :(